It's not them it is really you
by Coach Che on 08/16/16Hey there, I decide to write this blog for all of us (myself in the past) to finally take a deep look at what really is the problem in our failed relationships. Let, me start off by saying your first and most important true love is the LOVE of yourself if you don't love you no one else can fill that space you are missing. I have heard thousands of times, I just can't find the right partner all (fill in the blank men or women) are dogs and the good ones are already taken. Come on you know you have said that at least once in your life and you also know no matter how many different people you've dated it always turns out the same way. So what is the common thread with all your failed relationships .... You, that is right I said it YOU are the common thread, let that sit in your mind for a second.. I had this reality check 11 years ago after making 3 attempts to date and fix ,with my love, a man who was clearly struggling with issues of a transgender identity, an ex crack head former inmate and basically a man/boy rebound. All 3 of these men broke up with me and how could that be, I was a great catch, I am independent, have a college degree and made great money, so it couldn't be me or was it? At that point I decided to stop and look at me I didn't date or see any guys for 5 years I decided it was time I got to know me. I came up with 3 keys to changing who I choose to have in my life as a partner
